But let me be clear, I do know what not to say.
Do not say, “this was God’s will.” For all the traffic this phrase generates you would think it would have a central place in scripture. This phrase is often referenced as though random tragedy is divinely ordained, but no such example of God’s will exists in the life and teaching of Jesus...or in the entire New Testament for that matter. So I can say with no reservation, it is never the will of God to kill three teenagers in car wreck. I do not assume my readers are Christians, but for those who are, please remember ours is a faith of resurrection. God has destroyed death as the final answer and is forever on the side of life and love - in fact, God IS life and love. And that love is stronger than anything else in this world.
Do not say, “this could have been avoided if...” Humans like me and like you make mistakes all the time. I admit, I have texted while I